在母性中没有完美的东西。就像没有完美的孩子或完美的丈夫或完美的家庭或完美的婚姻一样，没有完美的母亲。
Health and wellness touch each of us differently. This is one person’s story.
我们的社会充满了信息,明显的一个d covert, that make moms feel inadequate — no matter how hard we work. This is especially true in today’s digital landscape in which we’re constantly bombarded with images that evoke “perfection” in all areas of life — home, work, body.
我可能对其中一些图像负责。作为一个全职博主和内容创建者，我是一代人的一部分，创建幸福的图像，描绘了我们生活的突出轴。然而，我将成为第一个承认，虽然社交媒体并不总是假的，但它完全curated。而且它创造的巨大压力是“完美妈妈”对我们的健康和幸福有害。
在母性中没有完美的东西。就像没有完美的孩子或完美的丈夫或完美的家庭或完美的婚姻一样，没有完美的母亲。我们越早意识到和拥抱这一非常重要的事实，我们越早冒昧地摆脱不切实际的期望，这可以挫败我们的快乐，带走我们的自我价值感。
当我第一次成为13年前的母亲时，我努力成为我在电视上看到的完美妈妈，同时在80年代和'90年代成长。我想成为美丽，优雅，永远患者的妈妈，在不牺牲她的女性的情况下很好地做得好。
I viewed ideal motherhood as something you achieve simply by working hard, just like getting into a good college or being hired for your dream job.
But in reality, motherhood was far from what I envisioned as a young girl.
Two years into motherhood I found myself depressed, isolated, lonely and disconnected from myself and others. I had babies under two and hadn’t slept for more than two to three hours a night in months.
My first daughter began showing signs of developmental delays (she was later diagnosed with a genetic disorder) and my infant daughter needed me around-the-clock.
我太害怕寻求帮助，因为我愚蠢地买到了要求帮助的想法意味着我是一个糟糕和不足的母亲。我试图成为每个人的一切，躲在一个完美母亲的面具后面。最终我击中了岩石底部并被诊断出来postpartum depression。
在这一点上，我被迫重新开始并重新安排母性真正需要。我也不得不将我的身份作为母亲收回 - 而不是根据别人所说的，但根据自己和我的孩子的最佳和现实。
I was fortunate enough to receive prompt medical care and eventually overcome this debilitating disorder with the help of antidepressants, family support, and self-care. It took many months of talk therapy, reading, research, journaling, reflection, and meditation to finally realize that the notion of the perfect mother was a myth. I needed to let go of this destructive ideal if I wanted to be a mother who was truly fulfilled and present for my children.
出现完美可能需要更长时间的时间。它真的取决于我们的个性，家庭背景和改变的欲望。然而，仍然确定的一件事是，当你放弃完美时，你实际上开始欣赏母性的混乱和混乱。你的眼睛终于向所有缺乏瑕疵的美丽开放，你开始了一个新的育儿旅程。雷竞技ray
作为一个令人心态的父母比我们想象的要容易得多。它只是意味着我们完全了解我们在那一刻所做的事情。我们完全存在并充分意识到日常时刻，而不是让自己分散注意力，而不是分散下一个任务或责任。这有助于我们欣赏并从事母亲的简单乐趣，如玩游戏，看电影，或者作为家人一起烹饪，而不是始终清洁或准备一个Pinterest值得的饭菜。
作为一个心灵的父母意味着我们不再将我们的时间花在强调未完成的内容，而是将我们的重点转移到我们可以为自己和我们所爱的人做什么，无论可能是那一刻。
As parents, its invaluable to set realistic expectations and goals for ourselves as well as our children. Embracing the messiness and chaos of life benefits our whole family by teaching them the process during which we accept ourselves and our loved ones wholeheartedly. We become more loving, empathetic, accepting, and forgiving. It’s important to be accountable for our daily actions of course, but we must first remember to embrace all sides of motherhood, including the bad and the ugly.
安吉拉是受欢迎的生活方式博客的创造者和作者妈妈日记。She has an MA and BA in English and visual arts and over 15 years of teaching and writing. When she found herself as an isolated and depressed mother of two, she sought genuine connection with other moms and turned to blogs. Since then, her personal blog has turned into a popular lifestyle destination where she inspires and influences parents all over the world with her storytelling and creative content. She’s a regular contributor for TODAY, Parents, and The Huffington Post, and has partnered with numerous national baby, family, and lifestyle brands. She lives in Southern California with her husband, three kids, and is working on her first book.