专家提示：请勿在6周的绿灯下对医生的批准进行批准。与刚分娩的人交谈。
在我成为爸爸之前，与妻子的性关系经常在案卷上。但是，一旦我们的儿子到达，亲密关系很快就落在了我们的待办事项清单的底部。我们正在优先考虑圆diaper changes，组装婴儿装备，并在看似无穷无尽的迷人连体衣中拍摄我们孩子的不间断照片。
起初，我没有时间或精力考虑做爱。但。我只是人类，很快欲望复仇。
There was one big question weighing on my mind: Was my wife ready, too? She was so focused on our child, exhausted from mothering, and coming to terms with all the changes with her body.
I never knew when (or if) it was appropriate to say, “Let’s take advantage of the baby’s nap time by working on someus时间。”我不想看上去很急躁或不对她更大的需求表示同情，但是我只是对自己诚实：我确实想开始做爱。
对于几周没有做爱的新父母来说，这是个好消息：这将会发生。但是，在欢迎婴儿进入生活之后重新引入亲密关系将需要时间和耐心。您可能会沿途犯一些错误 - 没关系。
为了避免您至少有几个错误，我分享了五个技巧，可以帮助我和我的妻子过渡回卧室（或者如果您的宝宝在房间里睡觉的话）。
The标准建议从医疗保健提供者开始等待4到6周，然后再开始做爱。但是，这些只是基于伴侣的身体恢复的一般准则。
即使您的伴侣受到医生的批准，她也需要情感上的准备就绪。如果妈妈出于某种原因没有感觉到，请不要推动它 - 在婴儿之后的第一次倒计时只会为已经压力很大的情况增加压力。
我亲眼目睹了新妈妈在生孩子后感觉不到。事情对他们来说只是不同的。更不用说，睡眠不足会给人带来真正的损失。（和爸爸，毕竟夜晚不眠之夜，外卖食物和放弃了去健身房的旅行，我们也不感觉最好。）
但是，我们希望新妈妈意识到的是，看着她成为您孩子的母亲是您见过的最性感的事情之一。所以，告诉她她很性感。
是的，她应该听到。
一旦您的伴侣准备就绪，那就太好了，但是不要指望婴儿前的生活。事情会有所不同。
如果她的母乳喂养，她的乳房可能会肿胀，乳头从未感到如此疼痛。小心轻放。您可能需要完全避免该区域。如果有的话milk leaks out. That’s totally natural. This is a good time to just laugh it off.
When it comes to the vagina, be super careful. It takes time to heal after having a baby and your partner’s vaginal area might still be tender during and after recovery. Additionally, many women suffer frompostpartum dryness，这会使性不舒服或彻头彻尾的痛苦。利用润滑剂.
If things get too uncomfortable or even painful for your partner, you’ll have to suspend your sex session. Go take a cold shower instead. Or get creative with that unused lube.
Yes, you can still have fun in bed, but you probably won’t be able to immediately do everything you used to do. Start off slow and go back to the basics. Think about其他形式的刺激before you have full-on vaginal intercourse.
You may have to experiment with新职位to figure out what is most comfortable and enjoyable for your partner. Now is a good time to have honest and open conversations about what’s good for both of you.
这不仅仅是再次发生性爱的技巧。这是为父母身份的一切而生的技巧。当您开始重新引入成为父母后发生性关系的概念时，关键是要尽可能与伴侣进行交流。
The ball is in her court, and make sure she knows that you’ll wait until she’s ready. Make that extra effort to make her feel as beautiful as she has always been. Go slow. And don’t be afraid to make changes to your pre-baby sex routine. Before you know it, you and your partner will be back in your groove, too.
Based in the D.C. area, Nevin Martell is a food and travel writer, parenting essayist, book author, recipe developer, and photographer, who has been published by The Washington Post, The New York Times, Saveur, Men’s Journal, National Geographic Traveler, Fortune, Travel + Leisure, and many other publications. Find him online atnevinmartell.com，在Instagram上@nevinmartell, and on Twitter@nevinmartell.