Growing up, I don’t remember ever being spanked. I’m sure it happened a time or two (because my parents weren’t opposed to spanking), but there are no instances that come to mind. But I do distinctly remember the times when my brother was spanked.
在我们的家庭中，打屁股是一种惩罚，完全按照“意义”的方式分配：冷静，理性地，重点是帮助孩子理解惩罚的原因。
Having grown up in a home where spanking was an accepted form of punishment (and neither my brother nor I seem to be irreparably harmed from it), you’d think that today I would be in favor of spanking myself.
But personally, I’m not in favor of it. My daughter is now 3 years old, and it’s never been something I’ve been comfortable with. I have friends who spank, and I don’t for a second judge them for that fact.
这是打屁股的利弊。
这most最近的研究在得克萨斯大学的学习数据中汇编了五十年的研究数据。专家得出了一个令人震惊的结论：打屁股会造成类似的情感和发育伤害，就像对儿童的虐待一样。
根据这项研究，打屁股的孩子越多，他们抗衡父母和经验的可能性就越大：
- 反社会行为
- aggression
- 心理健康问题
- cognitive difficulties
This is certainly not the only study of its kind. Plenty of
Obviously, parents must perceive that there are some positives that the research is missing for them to still use spanking as a form of punishment. So what do people believe are the pros of spanking?
Pros of spanking
- 在受控的环境中，打屁股可能是一种有效的惩罚形式。
- It might shock your child into behaving better.
- 所有儿童对不同形式的惩罚的反应都不同。
1. Lesser-known data
You’ll be hard-pressed to find any large-scale research that shows spanking to be effective in changing behavior and having no negative effects. But there are一些研究在那里，建议在“非虐待，纪律”环境中以“爱心，善意的父母”管理的打屁股是一种有效的惩罚形式。
这key is that the spanking must be administered in a calm, loving environment. Remember, the focus is on helping a child to learn appropriate behavior, as opposed to simply satisfying a parent’s frustration in the heat of the moment.
2. All children are different
Perhaps the biggest argument for spanking is the reminder that all kids are different. Children respond differently to forms of punishment, even kids who grew up in the same home. My brother and I are the perfect example of that. For some children, parents may truly believe that spanking is the only way to send a lasting message.
3.冲击因素
总的来说，我不是大喊大叫。但是我永远不会忘记我女儿放开手的那一天，冲进了我前面的街道。我大喊大叫，就像从未大喊大叫。她停在轨道上，脸上震惊。她谈到了几天。到目前为止，她从未重复过激发这一大喊的行为。冲击因素有效。
我可以看到打屁股如何在类似危险的情况下产生相同的反应（尽管研究再次表明，打屁股不会改变短期或长期行为）。有时，您希望该消息大声响起。您希望它的震惊与您的孩子在一起几天，几个月，甚至在事实之后几年。归根结底，保护我们的孩子通常是要阻止他们做危险的事情。
打屁股的缺点
- It can lead to aggression.
- Experts are against it.
- 这re are very limited circumstances where it would be effective.
1. The experts are opposed
每一个major health organization反对打屁股。和several international organizations甚至发布了将体罚定为定罪的呼吁。这American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)strongly opposes striking a child for any reason. According to AAP, spanking is never recommended. The experts are all in agreement on this fact: Research shows that spanking does more harm than good.
2. Spanking teaches aggression
When my daughter was 2, she went through a pretty severe hitting phase. So severe, in fact, that we visited a behavioral therapist to help me establish the tools for putting an end to the hitting. Several people in our lives commented that if I would just try spanking her, she would stop.
I have to admit, that never made sense to me. I was supposed to hit her to teach her to stop hitting? Luckily, I was able to curb her hitting within a few weeks of that first visit to the behavioral therapist. I have never regretted following that path instead.
3.做错的潜力
一件事很明确：该领域的专家公司只能在非常具体的情况下使用打屁股。也就是说，对于学龄前年龄范围的儿童而言，他们确实犯下了真正故意的不服从 - 而不是一小部分的反抗行为。
它绝不应用于婴儿，很少为具有更好沟通能力的大孩子。
It is meant to send a strong message, not to be used on a daily basis. And it should never be motivated by anger or meant to illicit feelings of shame or guilt.
But if spanking is an accepted form of punishment in your home, what are the chances that in a moment of anger you might lapse and resort to this punishment when you shouldn’t, or more aggressively than you should?
打屁股可能真正有效和适当的情况似乎非常有限和受控的场合。
最终，打屁股是父母的决定。
进行研究并与您信任的生活中的人和专家交谈。如果您选择打屁股，请努力确保您仅以平静和衡量的方式实施这种形式的惩罚，积极研究表明，必须有效。
除此之外，还要继续爱您的孩子，并为他们提供热情而有爱心的家。所有的孩子都需要。