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手工作业可能以“青少年性别”而闻名pleasure potential就像其他任何类型的游戏一样 - 是的，包括穿透性阴道和肛交！- HJS也应该在您的成人游戏时间中占有一席之地。
Scroll down for a, um,便利guide to making hand jobs a part of your sex life.
如果您不知道：阴茎几乎和阴茎本身一样多。
Penises vary in color, shape, and size
色情片中的阴茎可能都有相同的氛围，但所有人都penises are different呢
“Some penises are circumcised, some are not. Some may curve to one side, and others may not tilt,” says trauma-informed sex educatorCassandra Corrado。“Some are girthy and some are slender. Some are shorter, while others are long.”
阴毛也是如此
Pubes are like lawns. Everyone’s, er,草可能的颜色和纹理可能略有不同，每个人的风景略有不同，或者根本没有。
Some folks have no grass at all, others have their initials mowed into the grass, and some let the grass grow and grow.
Most penises have a smell
好消息：您不必购买This Smells Like My Penis” candle (yes, that is something you can purchase) to know your partner’s member won’t smell likenothing。
“Just as a foot or armpit has an odor, so does a penis,” says Sarah Melancon, PhD, sociologist and clinical sexologist with性玩具集体。
它可能闻到：
- 咸
- 麝香
- 泥土
- sour
Two scents to take notice of? Both moldy and rotten odors can indicate an infection, so you may want to push pause and considergetting checked out。
如果您将事情进一步……也知道有一种味道
Question time: Whose genitals taste like apple pie? Nobody’s!
Usually, cocks taste salty, umami, or earthy flavored.
Corrado指出：“味道可能会受到某人保留的饮食的轻微影响，但经常受到某人维持的卫生习惯的影响。”
So, long as your boo showers regularly it should taste A-OK.
Remember: Hand sex still has risks (and so does oral)
“Hand sex is one of the lower risk sex acts. However, it isn’t risk-free for the giver or receiver,” says Searah Deysach, longtime sex educator and owner ofEarly to Bed是芝加哥的一家愉悦产品公司，该公司在全球范围内运送。
“手和手指的切割很少，可以使人容易散开或捕捉blood-borne STIs,” explains Deysach.
Likewise, if one partner has a性传播感染（STI）and touches their genitals before they touch yours, STI transmission can occur.
“If one or both partners has an STI (or don’t knowtheir status), wearing a latex or nitrile gloves can reduce risk,” adds Deysach.
Below, you’ll find a few general tips.
请记住：“所有阴茎都可以从技术上体验到不同的乐趣，因此与收到手部工作的人一起检查很重要。”Luna Matatas, sexuality, body, confidence, and kink educator and creator of Peg The Patriarchy..
设定步伐
Slow and steady “wins” therace手工工作 - 至少要开始工作。
Begin with light pressure and slow(ish) strokes, and ramp up the intensity at your partner’s pleas.
Pay attention to their body language
Cue Shakira because hips (and eyes) don’t lie.
Is your partner backing their hips away from your grip? Odds are you’re going too fast or tight.
Is your partner thrusting into your hand? Odds are they’re very close…
锁眼
Or at least, maintain eye contact if you want to feel connected AF to your partner.
Matatas notes eye contact can feel even steamier when the giver and receiver are at different heights (i.e., the giver is kneeling while the receiver stands).
Add lube
Our recommendation? Skip the spit.
当然，它是免费的，易于访问的，但是lube>吐。
“Lube helps reduce unpleasurable friction and potential skin irritation,” says Corrado.
专家提示：Grabbing the lube before you get started and keeping it close at hand means you won’t have to interrupt the moment.
Use both hands
Matatas说：“两只手可以帮助您改变力量和速度，这可能是改变事物的一种方式。”
她说，您可以尝试将润滑的手包裹在他们的阴茎上，并互锁手指和拇指，创建一个容器来抚摸阴茎。
Or, “Use the fist and twist technique but with both hands stacked on top of one another,” adds Matatas. “Play with twisting them in a downward motion on the penis.”
您也可以将一只手放在他们的轴上，并用另一只手来：
- pull or stroke their hair
- tease their nipples
- consensually choke他们
- 触摸自己
Stray from the shaft
The perineum (the patch of skin between the balls and anus), bum cheeks, anus, balls, inner thighs, and pubic mound are also nerve dense.
“If your partner likes their balls played with, use one hand to cup or stimulate their testicles and the other hand can continue to stroke,” suggests Matatas.
Switch things up
There are so many different ways to touch a penis. Why stick to just one?
Matatas suggests three techniques to try:
- 拳头和扭曲。Wrap your index finger and thumb around the base of the penis. Create a fist with your other hand, and stroke in twisting motions up and down.
- 一半漩涡。用一只手抓住阴茎，用另一只手在头上旋转运动。
- 弹跳章鱼。Approach the head of the penis with a flat palm and allow your fingers to drape down onto the shaft. Drag your fingers up with pressure, as if they are tentacles grazing the shaft.
Maybe add toys
您可能会让您的伴侣戴振动公鸡戒指while you stroke, says Corrado. And either of you could wear a butt plug ornipple clamps。
Focus on pleasure, not orgasm
“Sometimes — especially with penis owners — we get so focused on getting to orgasm that we miss the opportunities to notice our partner, to ride their waves of pleasure, and to find our own pleasure in giving,” says Matatas.
“Slow things down, encourage communication, and show your enthusiasm for giving pleasure.”
手部工作可能是主要事件。或者，它可以标志着通宵骑行的第一站。
我怎么知道我是否应该继续前进？
If they’re writhing or moaning like an (orgasmic) animal, they probs don’t want you to stop. Keep doing what you’re doing.
A quick “How does this feel?” or “Do you want me to keep going?” will clear up any confusion.
What about me!?
有很多方法可以在提供手工作的同时获得您的工作！
You could:
- 尝试一个可穿戴的性玩具B-Vibe Rimming插头or theWe Vibe Moxie，两者都可以在线提供。
- Hump the mattress or your partner’s thigh.
- Ask your partner to stimulate you at the same time.
- Use your other hand on yourself.
- 邀请您的伴侣完成手工工作后触摸您。
They’re about to come… What do I do?
Keep going. You can either let them finish in your hand, ask them to finish themselves in their own hand, or grab a rag and use that to catch the cum.
You could also let them finish in your mouth.
OK, they finished… Now what?
一点点后手的赞美有很长的路要走。让您的伴侣知道看着他们享受自己有多热。
Next,clean up。Then, if you want to be touched, let ’em know!
Have some pressing Qs before you get some, ahem, hands-on experience? We’ve got answers.
What do I do if there’s foreskin?
Foreskin = a thin piece of skin that covers the head of the penis. Sometimes, a baby’s parents decide to remove that flap — aka割礼他们。
If that skin is left intact, itcanbe retracted down the base of the penis, exposing the mushroom-like, oh-so-sensitive penis head beneath.
Matatas说：“有些人会喜欢将其包皮用作手工工作的一部分，以增加一层质地，温暖和湿润。”
Other people might have a tighter foreskin, and it could be painful to try to retract their foreskin intentionally during a hand job.
To find out what your partner likes, ask!
How hard is too hard of a grip?
通常，您想开始松动并增加抓地力（当然，最多可以）。
但是每个阴茎所有者都喜欢不同的东西。因此，抓住伴侣的公鸡，然后问：
- “Why don’t you put your hand over mine and show me how tight you like it?”
- “Tell me when you like the tightness of my grip.”
如果我的手累了，该怎么办？
Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for all partners. If finger fatigue is interfering with your pleasure, transition to another activity.
您可能会说：
- “Babe, I’m loving touching you, but my hand is getting tired. How would you feel about stroking yourself while I kiss your neck?”
- “How would you feel about me going down on you now?”
- “I think it could be really hot to watch you use a stroker on yourself.”
What if I run out of spit?
Matatas说：“吐口水可以是性感的，但是它很快就会干燥，并剥夺了您的湿滑质地，使抚摸感觉很好。”
The solution? Use lube and be generous with it.
专家提示：硅胶或油基润滑油last longer than water-based lube. But oil degrades latex, so if you might have penetrative intercourse after, stick to a silicone-based lube likeüberlube。
为什么我的伴侣这么安静？我还好吗？
mo吟不是传达事物的感受的唯一方法。呼吸的变化，身体语言，暗示，面部表情也可以提供一些关键线索。
当然,如果你不确定他们是否enjoying themselves, there’s one good way to find out how you’re doing: Just ask!
Matatas建议：“问诸如'更柔软或更难？
如果有预兼该怎么办？
Pre-cum = pre-ejaculate that can dribble out of the tip of the penis anywhere from seconds to minutes before ejaculation.
If your partner releases pre-cum, that’s totally healthy and normal! Keep going (unless they ask you to stop, of course).
Keep reading to learn how to go fromwantingto give an HJ to actually doing it.
Getting things going
不要从“ Hello”转变为手工工作。Build arousal with：
Finding a good position
Different muscles may bear more strain in different positions.
“你的臀部和ab如果肌肉会更加激活you’re straddling,” explains Corrado.
Corrado说：“如果您躺在身边，您的肩膀肌肉可能会感到紧张，并且每个位置可能会给您的前臂带来不同的压力。”“做最适合您和您的伴侣的事情。”
加热东西
No need to strip your boo to their birthday suit from the get-go.
取笑他们在他们的衣服上by tracing the seams, outlining their penis through the fabric, or cupping your hand over their clothed cock and letting them grind into it.
When you’re ready (and sensethey’re准备好），问：“我可以脱掉这些吗？”
Sexual activity doesn’t have to involve penetration to be satisfying, and hand sex isn’t just teenage fodder. Hand jobs offer a lower-risk way to intimately connect with your partner without penetration.
您可能会选择在手工工作后停下来，也许您喜欢他们作为性感的前戏。无论哪种方式，无论您的年龄多大，您的触摸仍然可以为您的阴茎拥有的伴侣带来快乐。
加布里埃尔·卡塞尔（Gabrielle Kassel）is a New York-based sex and wellness writer and CrossFit Level 1 Trainer. She’s become a morning person, tested over 200 vibrators, and eaten, drunk, and brushed with charcoal — all in the name of journalism. In her free time, she can be found reading self-help books and romance novels, bench-pressing, or pole dancing. Follow her onInstagram。
