条款 ”aromantic” and “asexual” don’t mean the same thing.
正如名字表明,aromantic人经验little to no romantic attraction, while asexual people experience little to no sexual attraction. Each term contains a spectrum of identities.
Some people identify as both aromantic and asexual. However, identifying with one of those terms doesn’t mean you necessarily identify with the other.
这是您需要了解的有关芳香，无性恋或两者兼而有之。
芳香的人experience little to no romantic attraction.
浪漫的吸引力是要与某人建立坚定的浪漫关系。浪漫关系的定义因人而异。
Some aromantic people have romantic relationships anyway or may still desire a romantic relationship without feeling romantic attraction toward a specific person.
一个芳香的人的对立面是确实经历了浪漫吸引力的人。这种类型的人被称为同类人物.
Asexual peopleexperience little to no sexual attraction.
In other words, they feel limited, if any, desire to have sex with other people. Asexuality is a spectrum, and some asexual people feel more sexual attraction than others.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that asexual people don’t ever have sex — it’s possible to have sex with someone without feeling sexually attracted to them. Some people in the asexual community do not have sex, while others may still choose to have sex for a number of reasons.
无性恋者的对立面是经历性吸引力的人。这种类型的人称为同性恋。
Not all asexual people are aromantic, and not all aromantic people are asexual — but some people are both.
People who are both aromantic and asexual experience little to no sexual or romantic attraction. That doesn’t mean they don’t get into romantic relationships or have sex, though.
A person who identifies as asexual and aromantic may fall on completely different places on either spectrum.
There are many other terms people use to describe their sexual and romantic identities.
Some of the identities under the asexual or aromantic umbrella include:
- Graysexual or grayromantic.条款 ”graysexual” or “grayromantic” refer to someone who experiences very limited sexual or romantic attraction. They may experience sexual or romantic attraction rarely or at very low intensity.
- Demisexual or demiromantic.条款 ”demisexual”或“非魔术师”是指只有与已经有着紧密联系的人进行性或浪漫吸引的人。
- Reciprosexual or recipromantic.These terms refer to someone who feels sexually or romantically attracted only to someone who is sexually or romantically attracted to them first.
- Akiosexual or akioromantic.These terms refer to someone who can feel sexual or romantic attraction but doesn’t want those feelings to be returned by whoever they’re attracted to.
- Aceflux or aroflux.These terms refer to someone whose capacity for sexual or romantic attraction changes over time.
You could identify with one or more of these terms, and your identity might shift over time.
Every aromantic asexual person is different, and each person has unique experiences when it comes to relationships.
However, if you are both aromantic and asexual, you might identify with one or more of the following:
- You’ve had little desire for a sexual or romantic relationship with a specific person.
- 您很难想象恋爱中的感觉。
- You struggle to imagine what lust feels like.
- 当其他人谈论性或浪漫地吸引某人时，您就无法真正联系。
- You feel neutral or even repulsed by the idea of having sex or being in a romantic relationship.
- You’re not sure if you only feel the need to have sex or be in relationships because that’s what is expected of you.
Aromantic asexual people might still have romantic or sexual relationships, depending on their feelings.
毕竟，有许多与某人发生性关系或建立恋爱关系的动机 - 这并不是要吸引他们。
请记住，芳香和无性恋并不意味着某人没有爱或承诺。
Outside of sexual attraction, people might want to have sex in order to:
- have children
- give or receive pleasure
- bond with their partner
- 表达感情
- experiment
Similarly, outside of romantic attraction, people might want to have romantic relationships in order to:
- co-parent with someone
- commit to someone they love
- 提供并获得情感支持
Yes! You don’t need to be in a romantic or sexual relationship to be happy.
社会支持很重要，但是您可以从培养亲密的友谊和家庭关系中得到这一点 - 每个人都应该做的事情，无论他们生活中没有浪漫的关系。
某些无性恋或芳香的人可能更喜欢“ Queerplatonic关系”，这个术语是指不一定是浪漫或性行为的紧密关系。他们比普通的友谊更近。
例如，Queerplatonic的关系可能涉及共同生活，共同育儿，互相给予情感和社会支持，或分担财务和责任。雷竞技ray
It is OK to not want to have sex. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or that it’s an issue you need to fix.
Some asexual people do have sex, and some masturbate. Some don’t have sex.
Asexual people might be:
- Sex-averse:meaning they don’t want to have sex and find the thought unappealing
- Sex-indifferent:meaning they don’t feel strongly about sex either way
- Sex-favorable:意思是他们喜欢性的某些方面，即使他们没有经历这种吸引力
人们可能会发现他们对性的感觉会随着时间的流逝而波动。
There’s no test to determine your sexual or romantic orientation — and that can make it pretty tough to figure out.
If you’re unsure whether you fit under the asexual/aromantic umbrella, you may consider the following:
- Join forums or groups — such as the AVEN forums or Reddit forums — where you can read about others’ experiences as asexual and aromantic people. This might help you figure out your own feelings.
- Talk with a trusted friend who understands what asexuality and aromanticism are.
- Join asexual- and aromantic-friendly LGBTQIA+ groups to connect with like-minded people in person.
- Do a little introspection and consider your feelings about sexual and romantic attraction.
最终，只有您才能确定自己的身份。
请记住，每个无性或芳香的人都是不同的，每个人在人际关系方面都有自己的独特经历和感受。
There are a number of online resources for people who want to learn more about asexuality and aromanticism.
这里有几个：
- Asexual Visibility and Education Network, where you can search the definitions of different words relating to sexuality and orientation
- Trevor项目, which offers crisis intervention and emotional support to queer youth, including young asexual and aromantic people
- 无性群体, a website that lists asexual groups all over the world, as doesAces & Aros
- 当地的无性或芳香小组和Facebook组
- forums like theAven论坛and theAsexuality subreddit
Sian Ferguson is a freelance writer and editor based in Cape Town, South Africa. Her writing covers issues relating to social justice, cannabis, and health. You can reach out to her onTwitter.