People who are aromantic, also known as “aro,” don’t develop romantic attractions for other people. But that doesn’t mean they don’t have feelings. Aromantic people do form strong bonds and have loving relationships that have nothing to do with romance.
From fairy tales to the silver screen to Valentine’s Day, romance is a big part of our culture. Budding romances and a grand romantic gestures are portrayed as the norm and as something we should all expect. That can put a lot of pressure on someone who simply doesn’t have those desires.
爱是很难定义,但有一个明显不同ence between love and romance.
MRI扫描研究表明浪漫的爱有一个不同的神经化学和激素曲线，可以影响功能推理。这就是为什么一个新的浪漫爱情可以让你忽略逻辑，跳出责任，并忽视你所爱的人的缺陷。
浪漫的爱情涉及对他人的激烈的亲密关系，激情，甚至是临时兴奋。当你想到他们时，你忍不住微笑，并且很难不要。您想了解他们的一切，并尽可能与他们在一起。
浪漫的爱情可以让你在安顿不太激烈的情况下让你分散注意力，但仍然是浪漫的关系。
芳香的人不这种感觉。他们可能从未在关系开始或之后有过这些感受，并且他们也不渴望，他们也没有 - 他们很好。
The terms asexual and aromantic can be easily confused, but have very different meanings.
无性意味着您不会对他人形成性景点，尽管您可能会感到浪漫的吸引力。有些人仍然发生性行为。其他人选择独身或禁欲。
芳族的术语与性别无关。这意味着你不会浪漫地附加到其他人，尽管你可能会发展性吸引力。任何性取向的人都可以是茂密的。
您也可以是无性，芳香或两者。
有许多类型的关系。像其他人一样，芳香享受各种健康relationships与家人，亲密的朋友和熟人。抛弃浪漫，他们就像其他任何人一样爱。
That’s not to say that aromantic people never couple up. Some do, and through mutual support and shared experiences, these relationships can be very meaningful. Depending on the people involved, this type of relationship may or may not involve sex.
An aromantic person may not behave in ways typically expected in a romantic relationship. While they may enjoy your company, they might not want to spend all their free time with you.
An aromantic person may decide to engage in romantic behavior to please someone else. It’s important to remember, though, that this isn’t an indicator that they have romantic feelings.
与任何两个人一样，这一切都归结为个人，他们期望的，以及每个人都可以带来这种关系。
Because romance is anticipated and seemingly normal, a person who doesn’t develop romantic feelings may wonder if there’s something wrong with them. This certainly isn’t the case and each person is different. Consider these misconceptions:
Aromantics are anti-romance
现实：他们没有反对浪漫，尽管他们并没有被浪漫关系自己。他们仍然可以享受浪漫主义主题的良好情歌或电影。
Aromantics are cold and heartless
Reality: They have plenty of feelings. They’re as kind and loving as anyone. They form deep, emotional connections, but are content with platonic love and other close relationships. Some of the nicest people you know could be aromantic.
芳香害怕承诺
Reality: You can fear commitment and still develop romantic feelings. Being aromantic has to do with how you feel, not whether you’re able or willing to commit.
Someone who is aromantic just hasn’t found the right person yet
现实：它根本不是越来越糟糕的分手或找到合适的人。这对任何人都缺乏浪漫的吸引力，这可能会在青春期变得明显。
芳香不喜欢触摸，接吻或拥抱
现实：身体感情不必涉及浪漫。就像浪漫主义者一样，一些令人触及的芳香和其他人没有。有些人喜欢性，其他人是无性的。
Aromantics can be “fixed”
Reality: There’s nothing wrong, so there’s nothing to fix. Not being in a romantic relationship doesn’t necessarily make them lonely. Trying to force romance on an aromantic person — or any person — is a bad idea. They won’t appreciate it and someone’s feelings will likely be hurt.
Research on aromanticism is lacking and there may be some reluctance to talk about it. So, it’s hard to say how many people identify as aromantic.
Everyone is different. From those very interested in romance to aromantics and everyone in between, there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re fine just the way you are.